-rising senior in high school (17)
-5'8'; and I guess kind of slender (122 lbs idk if that is it?)
-I wear what I want (forever21, Hollister, A%26amp;F, dELiA*s, nothing ';scene'; or ';emo'; or stuff like that)
-girls tell me I am really beautiful but no guy has ever given me a compliment on how I look :(
-NEVERnever had a boyfriend! pshh or a first kiss for that matter
I keep thinking I'm some kind of freak or something...or maybe just freaking ugly! I have self esteem issues from when I was picked on a lot when I was younger and I guess I just never grew out of them.
So basically I have like...2 guy friends. And they both have girlfriends! And I can't even talk to them normally!
It's like...I run out of things to talk about, and I can't look them in the eyes because I can just feel them staring at all the things that are wrong with me. We can have a shitload of fun when around other people but I guess I'm really uncomfortable being alone with guys!
Before one of them got a girlfriend we were at a pool and he invited me out to eat, just him and me and I totally freaked out and made my (girl) friend come with us.
And that's with guys I've know for a long time too!
With people I've just met I don't even know, my body just freezes up and my pulse gets super fast and I don't know what to say or how to act so I just stay silent and act like a total lame idiot!
Help me :( How can I be confident around guys?I am so painfully shy around guys it kills me...advice please? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!?
I'm sorry. I know how that feels only I am a guy and was deathly afraid of girls. First off, don't panic you have your whole life ahead of you and there WILL be a man in it at some point. Don't be so hard on yourself, there are tons of women in this world facing the very same thing and there are guys out there who will take the time needed to make you feel at ease around them cause they will genuinely like you. Guys are not that much different then girls in that we feel like we've run out of topics around girls at times and freeze up like you said. Get some books on how to start conversations and stick with your interests. Focus on what you want to do with your life and go to college where you WILL meet a man with common interests which will then just flow into conversations. Love yourself, you are not ugly!I am so painfully shy around guys it kills me...advice please? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!?
All I can really say is that you are going through a phase, i used to be really nervous around guys, and when my friends talked about guys i used to be so shy, because i could never participate in the conversation. Then when i had my first kiss, i just fell in love with men, i loved being touched and sexual with them. You just need to find a comfort zone, then gradually do more and more, such as- you said you freeze up with people you don't even know and guys you've known for a long time, well people don't like people in a group that don't talk, they might think your bored or being rude(i used to be like this so i would know) just be yourself, try to talk about something that you saw on t.v or on the news, or something thats effecting everyone like GAS PRICES, most likely if you'll never see them again you have nothing to lose. I don't care what people think about me and you shouldnt either, as long as your not being obnoxious
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